Adulthood pro tip
People in crisis are often experiencing decision fatigue. Don’t ask them “what can I do?”, ask them something concrete. “Can I get you dinner?” “Does your dog need to be walked?” “Would you like some quiet company?”
They may say no, and that’s okay, but if you can save them the chore of having to think up a task for you, it’s a good thing.
(Anecdote: my best friend had a difficult delivery with her kid. When they were in the hospital, I asked if I could send dinner, and then asked “do you want to make any choices about what you eat?” I know what she generally likes, so when she said no, I was able to send things that she would enjoy and didn’t have to choose. She says it was one of the best things I could have done for her. Sometimes offering to make a choice for someone is a gift.)













